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Why aren’t we in an outrage about photo shopping??

Look at these pictures and tell me that these women do not look more beautiful in the before pictures. I watched "Housewives of Miami" last night and plastic surgery is becoming the norm. With all the plastic surgery, no one is going to look related in a few years. Women are trying to live in a world where what they are trying to attain is not even attainable.

Insides make your outsides shine — not the other way around. And I got a another hint: most guys don't care about plastic, they care about kindness.

Look up the reasons why most guys cheat: it's because they are getting something emotional, not sexual, outside the relationship.

And, and, and — they are photoshopping the young girls. They are targeting young people before they even have a second to blossom on the inside. I heard some twenty somethings talking about what it's like getting older the other day. Really? It will never end unless we start caring about more things on the inside.

I'm not saying you should not take care of yourself and look nice. I'm saying, stop letting these computers dictate an impossible standard for you.

If you're worried about making the outsides do something unnatural, your insides will never feel better.

Have you ever walked up to a cosmetics counter to buy moisturizer that you truly need and they give you a dig as soon as you walk up? "Oh your type of skin is oily, or mature skin, or if you don't watch it you might get such and such a skin." They set you up with fear right away so you will buy more. They give you the message that you are not OK.

These women look more than OK to me before.

http://collegecandy.com/2012/04/21/54-photoshopped-celebrity-before-and-after-photos/#photo=1

How do we know what's our crazy?

So I think everyone battles with this idea of knowing when to say something and when not to. When acting too quickly could hurt you, but acting too slowly could hurt you too.

How do you know if you're acting from the crazy part of you or not when everything is all mixed up inside?

I'm finding that if I say what I mean, mean what I say, and don't say it mean, I usually can't go wrong.

I need to say it though — no one can read my mind.

I need to take the risk and possibly be wrong, but if I've said something wrong in a respectful way, there is always somewhere to grow from.

I don't hurt another human being. In fact, I might actually see them and maybe even learn something.

The reward is that I walk around lighter and more supported as opposed to heavy, lonely and defeated.

Defeated by my own self and my inability to communicate.

Imagine that?

They really were onto something when they said relationships are all about communication.

Isolation breeds crazy.

Today, try not to project a fantasy on someone. Try to listen and have and honest exchange.

I promise you'll feel a little lighter ,a little less alone and a little less crazy.

This is my mess

Things are messy. People are messy. The only mess you have control over cleaning is your own. You can help another if they are already on their journey but because humans are unpredictable, even if they ask for help, sometimes they need more time.

You could have spent time with them and they abandon ship.

Don't look at it like a waste of time. Look at it as more love than they could've handled before.

True love is letting others be and taking good care of yourself as best you can.

Life and humans are unpredictable, but you can predict that if the next right move is the kindest one for everyone involved, you will not be contributing to the mess.

What a better gift you can give someone than to not suck the life outta them with your mess? And to not add to it either.

Today is the day

I was thinking yesterday how no one is better than anyone else. We do not choose who we are born to. We do not choose our bodies. We just come out and here we are. We take what we were given and do the best we can. Hopefully we find some comfort and realize that it's our humanity and the surrender that we need to accept that we have no power over how we got here but we do have power over what we do while we here — that frees us.

If you're judging it, you're not feeling it.

I really think the world is so detached from its center that everyone is just spinning a cocoon from their own fear. We are isolated and isolation causes death.

So many people say, "I didn't want to be the person who gets jealous" or "I didn't want to be the person who was disappointed."

Guess what? YOU CANNOT AVOID FEELINGS. You just switch one bunch for another. Most of the time it's anxiety in place of fear, sadness, anger, even joy — real joy.

The more you deny your true self, the more detached you become from you're center, which is love.

I was on Nantucket — one of the wealthiest places in the world. EVERYONE was afraid.

Then I went to the Hamptons, another wealthy place, and they all wished they lived on Nantucket.

The kinetic anxiety in the world is suffocating us.

Humanity is freedom. If we accept our humanity and stop chasing outside things, we will be free because chasing outside things is a form of self hatred.

We hate ourselves, we hate our bodies, which makes us hate our earth. We are killing our home because we have detached and tricked ourselves into believing hatred is our core, but it's not — only love is.

If you strip away all of it, all that will stick is the truth, which is love.

A kid whispered in my ear, "Why do we have love in our hearts?" and my niece asked me where God came from.

My response to both was, "Because Love is and always will be here."

If we admit all the parts of ourselves, if we surrender to our imperfection, we will feel relief. It is very loving to embrace imperfection because it softens you.

It is much harder to chase, or to be chased by, our judgements — that keeps us running. We're afraid that if we go in we will find out that we are disgusting. Or maybe we are afraid that if we go in, we will find out that we are love.

It is sometimes the behavior that is disgusting, but never, ever the person.

Slow down, go in, accept the humanity, and in doing that, you find compassion and patience for yourself.

Which, in turn, makes you have compassion for others.

That is the key to breaking the isolation and the pathway out of the cocoon.

It will be lonely at first because you will feel like you are going against the gravitation of the earth. You will feel like if you go in, you will never come out.

But the truth is, you will turn into a beautiful butterfly that is attracted to the light; a butterfly that everyone wants to be around.

No money needed.

Jump, Jump, Jump to it!

I came home from a whirlwind tour of work and was feelin a little tired and like I was never gonna make it no matter how hard I tried. That is an old tape that I love to go back to when I feel vulnerable.

I say love because I get something out of it. It makes me feel bad even when things are good.

I went to yoga because even though I have not mastered the ability to enjoy goodness purely, I have figured out that I do it to myself and yoga is a great way to not only take care of myself, but to open my body when I feel like closing it.

Sometimes it's a blind leap of faith because the fear is not real.

Well as I turned towards the back of my mat I caught a glimpse of the girl behind me.

Something looked funny about the coloration between her ankle and her calf.

As I looked closer I realized that it looked as if her foot had been reattached.

I thought immediately WOW! Imagine the courage it took for her to leap again?

Sometimes I need a reminder that on closer inspection people are amazing and so am I.